The first thing you want/need to do is cry or grieve for your relationship, and that’s perfectly fine. It doesn’t matter how long your relationship was, you have every right to be sad about it ending, even if you were the one who instigated the break up.
2. Talk about it.
The worst thing you can do is bottle it up. Find someone you trust and just vent. Try not to be unreasonable about your ex boyfriend or girlfriend but at the same time you need to get your sadness/anger out.
3. Have time away.
Although the only thing you might want to do is talk to your ex, the best thing to do is give each other space to think and start healing. Don’t completely ignore them if you can help it but try not to depend on them.
4. Talk to them.
You need to have a conversation about why the relationship ended and how you both feel about it. While having this conversation, it’s good to express your feelings but try not to apply blame to the situation. Be rational and reasonable and hold a mature conversation with them.
5. Be friends.
Obviously this isn’t going to work straight away. You need time to get over it. Work slowly towards being friends again. However, if they decide to move on to someone else before you have moved past the break up, don’t feel bad if you need to shut them out of your life for a while. The last thing you want is to be uncomfortable and sad everytime you see your ex. If they have a problem with this then calmly explain to them that it’s not good for you to watch them be together. After some time you’ll be able to be friends again.
Break ups are difficult and this is just my opinion on how to get through a break up. Everyone is different. But i think that talking about it is the best way to move through it and with some luck you’ll still be able to be friends with your ex boyfriend/girlfriend.
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