Monthly Archives: May 2016

6 Things To Spice Up Your Relationship.

Sometimes relationships become like a routine. You do the same things all the time and eventually you’re both going to get sick of it. So here’s some ideas on how to spice up your relationship and make things a little bit more exciting.

1. Bake.
Something as little as baking them cupcakes can make the world of difference, particularly if they’re having a crap day. This will likely put them in a good mood which means you’ll have more fun together.

2. Date night.
I know this is so overdone and a bit cliche but try to make a real evening of it. Get dressed up, go somewhere really fancy for dinner or drinks and go over the top. It’ll make the night more memorable.

3. Travel.
This doesn’t mean you have to book a 3 week tour through europe, but even just going for a drive somewhere new can be really exciting. Choose a nice Sunday to take your partner somewhere neither of you have been, find a nice little bakery or pack your own lunch and find a park. Whatever works for you.

4. Buy them a gift.
I’m not saying that expensive gifts are essential in a relationship, but occasionally it can be nice to buy your girl a ring or a necklace or buy your man a new game. Choose something you know they’ll love and appreciate. It doesn’t have to cost the world for it to mean the world to them.

5. Talk.
Stay up late one night and just talk for hours. Talk about your fears, dreams, ambitions, or anything that helps you get to know eachother just that little bit better. Even if you’ve been together for years, there’s always something new to learn about your partner.

6. Go over the top romantic.
Flower petals on the bed, a candle lit home cooked dinner or even a lovely picnic in the gardens. Go way overboard and as well as being a wonderful time for you, it’s also really fun to plan little surprises for your partner and see their reaction when they see the effort you’ve gone to to make them happy.

Hopefully that helps any of you guys who feel like your relationship is becoming a bit boring. Stay lovely! 🙂 x

What Do You Do When You Lose Interest In Your Course?

Like most uni students right now, I feel like I’ve lost my passion for what I’m studying. I used to love writing and story planning and that kind of thing but lately I’ve been so unmotivated and I feel like I’ve lost all interest in what I’m studying.

It seems to be this time of year that it happens to almost everyone so at least I’m not alone in it. Finishing the semester feels about as likely as me climbing mount everest but I’ve conjured some ways to refresh myself and renew my love of writing.

Here are some ways to help get you through the rest of the semester. 

1. Remind yourself why you’re there. You chose to study your course for a reason. Go back to how you felt at the beginning of your course and think about why you chose this subject.

2. Remember that you’re not alone.
Like I said before, almost everyone has hit a brick wall at the moment. With a flood of assignments pending and the pressure of exams building, we have every right to be a bit stressed.

3. The glass is half full.
Don’t think ‘Oh crap, there’s still x amount of weeks left of the semester.’ Think of it as ‘Oh wow! Only x amount of weeks until I get a well deserved break.’

4. De-stress at home.
The best thing you can do to refresh yourself is to RELAX. And although this might seem impossible now, after spending some time with friends or watching your favourite movie with your boyfriend, it won’t seem so difficult.

5. SLEEP.
I cannot stress this enough. One thing that I’ve noticed is that I haven’t been sleeping very well which has resulted in napping all day on Sundays. Oops. Make sure you get to bed at a certain time and allow enough time for you to get those all important 8 hours of sleep.

6. Write.
This one is mostly for me but can be applied to other courses. Put some time aside every week to do just that. Start off with 1-2 hours then try increasing it until you’re feeling happy about doing it.

I hope this helps any of you who are feeling a bit unmotivated to finish the semester. Just remember that holidays are soon and they will be glorious. Keep that in your mind and before you know it, you’ll be realxing on a beach in Hawaii without a care in the world.

Happy studying! 🙂 x

What I Fear About The Future.

I’m not ashamed to say that I’m scared of the future. In any given day, at any given time, something terrible can happen. No one knows what the future holds for them. No one can be sure that their dreams and life ambitions will come true. That’s what scares me the most.

I’m scared that I’ll lose my friends. Already the numbers have decreased since finishing high school. Now, I feel like I have about 3 people in my life that I can really call a good friend. It’s not that the others are bad friends, they’re just not around anymore.

I’m scared that my relationship with my boyfriend will end and it’ll hurt like previous break ups have hurt. I love him with everything I am but I can’t tell what’s going to happen in the future. I can hope and pray with all that I have but it still might not be enough to hold us together through whatever the future holds.

I’m scared that my writing will get me nowhere. What if I don’t get a career that I love out of it? What if I can’t find a job as a writer or what if I end up hating it? Should I have chosen a different path to travel on?

I’m scared that I’ll have no money. I know that this is a materialistic thing that doesn’t create happiness but I really hate not having money. It’s so essential to life that if you don’t have it, you can end up somewhere you don’t deserve to be.

I’m scared that my relationships with my family will deteriorate over time and I’ll end up not seeing any of them anymore. It’s not like I have a super close relationship with my brothers but I don’t want to be like my dad who never sees his sister anymore.

More than anything, I’m scared that I’ll fail. What if I fail at being a good friend, girlfriend, sister, daughter? What if I fail as a writer? What if I fail as a person?

The fear of failure looms over me everyday. Sometimes it’s a crippling fear that takes over my body with anxiety. I get stressed so easily about little things going on in my life because what if I don’t succeed at them or I let someone down?

I hope one day I won’t be afraid to fail and make mistakes but at the moment it’s controlling my ability to have faith in myself and my capabilities.

I don’t know what the future holds. I can’t control what happens. I guess I just need to pull together what little faith I have left in myself and believe that everything will fall into place eventually.

 

Thanks for reading x