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My High School Fears Come True.

Everybody wants to be remembered. Whether it’s for being great, or not so great, the desire is always there. Being forgotten is almost like you never really existed, or that you weren’t important enough to continue existing in the person’s mind. Being forgotten was my worst fear about finishing high school.

It’s been well over a year since finishing school now and I have come to the realisation that I’ve been forgotten. Not in the literal sense in that no one remembers I exist. But, in some ways, this form is much worse.

I seem to have been forgotten by my best friends.

A few days ago I was walking down the beach and it finally hit me. I’m not really friends with anyone I was friends with in high school anymore. Of course, I still speak to a couple of them every now and then, but it’s nothing more than a friendly chat before we go our separate ways again, for months on end.

It’s quite sad actually, how some of these friendships that I swore would last a lifetime have dissolved into practically nothing. It’s a strange feeling when I think of the few girls that I called my best friends and see them as just a few more people that I know.

Maybe I should have pushed harder to see them more. Maybe they should have tried harder. Maybe we just weren’t as close as we thought we were.

The worst part, though, is feeling completely forgotten by the one friend I thought never could forget me. We went from speaking on a daily basis to her not even coming out of her boyfriend’s room to say hello when I came to visit my own boyfriend at uni. It became heart breaking every time I went because of the lack of care that she had that I was there.

Her boyfriend became more important than anything else in her life, which I can understand on some levels, but in doing so it meant that she forgot how to have her own life. It makes me sad to think about how many times she said no to catching up because she was busy with him.

I guess I can’t blame her for being in love, but it still hurts to lose a friend this way. To feel forgotten by the people that were most important to you is the worst kind of forgotten.

I don’t care that the other people in my year, who I had nothing to do with, have probably forgotten my name, if not my entire existence. I care that my best friends, who meant the absolute world to me, seemed to have forgotten our friendships.

Maybe we’ll re-connect one day and it will be great again, but maybe not as well. I wish that we’d all tried harder to stay together. I wish that we’d known what leaving high school does to people and prepared ourselves for the new journey.

But, the truth is, we drifted apart. I still think of my nutty friend. I will never forget the crazy stories we made together, but I think now, by writing this down, that I’ve finally realised that friendships change, and people change.

And that’s okay.

 

 

 

Divinity LA

You’ll never be stuck for a gift for your mum/sister/girlfriend/best friend ever again.

Allow me to introduce one of the best companies around; Divinity LA.

Divinity LA are a company that handmake beaded bracelets, each one having a different meaning. Divinity LA is based in, you guessed it, LA. They are super easy to deal with and make the whole shopping experience a breeze.

I stumbled upon an ad for Divinity LA on facebook and knew my partner’s mum would love something like that for Christmas. While I was at it, I picked out something for my mum too.

What makes these bracelets so special is that with each purchase, depending on which one you buy, Divinity LA donates a dollar of that sale to a corresponding charity.

For example, my partner’s mum received this beautiful set of two:

The Sea Turtle

This bracelet proves that slow and steady wins the race. Featuring stones that enhance creativity and mental clarity, this stunning piece is sure to attract happiness and a positive outlook on life.

Divinity Green White

Featuring the powerful influence of creativity, this bracelet is optimal for increasing mental function and composure. This enchanting piece uses stones that encourage new friendships and enhanced emotional strength, which all together bring forth happiness and joy.

By purchasing this stack you will be donating $1 to each of the following: Sea Turtle Conservancy, and to improving children’s health around the world.

The bracelets are so beautifully made and the beads are of a very high quality. My partner also bought me a set (at my request) that I absolutely adore.

Ella

Featuring an elephant that represents patience and strength, along with a combination of stones that bring about creativity and clarity. Not only is the bracelet a powerful tool for reducing stress, but also helps to increase self-confidence and instill power and tranquility throughout daily interactions.

Divinity Pink White 

Featuring Rose Quartz, known to instill relaxation and compassion and help break negative thoughts. This bracelet donates to help cancer patients who are fearlessly fighting towards remission and to the research that will one day lend a cure.

By purchasing this stack you will be donating $1 to each of the following: Relay for Life, and International Elephant Foundation.

There are many more to choose from, and at only $16US for a single bracelet and $28US for a pair, you can’t go wrong. They make such great gifts by not only being gorgeous pieces of jewellery but also giving something back, which is a gift in itself. It’s feel-good jewellery, essentially.

Here’s the link to their website and facebook page. I hope you all have a look at the incredible work this company does and buy a nice bracelet or two!

https://www.divinityla.com/pages/our-story

https://www.facebook.com/DivinityLA/

Ps. They’ve just brought out a Valentine’s Day bracelet too, check it out!

https://www.divinityla.com/collections/valentines-day/products/divinity-love

 

My Happy Place

Happy Valley is only a short drive from Linton and holds many childhood memories of summer days spent at the river. Over the last 10 years, the river has grown in popularity with campers as a sort of retreat. With the beauty of the river so conveniently placed in the heart of the bush, it’s not hard to see why.

To get to the river, we would cross the Happy Valley crossing, which is well-known for its tendency of flooding. If the weather allowed us, we would cross the crossing and turn left down an old dirt road.

To the unaware eye, all that lay ahead was a clearing and a shallow river, nothing more than a large pond. But, the real magic was across and beyond the tiny river.

We would walk through the shallow water, esky and bogey boards in hand, and along the short stretch of washed, rounded white stones to the part of the river that was deep enough for swimming.

We would spend the day at the river, uninterrupted, basking in the sunlight that managed to seep through the tops of the tall gum trees and listening to the kookaburras sing for more days like it.

Sometimes we would bring our dogs, Minty and Barney. Neither of them particularly liked swimming so I’d put them on the bogey boards instead.

The river at Happy Valley is one I will always remember fondly. It reminds me of hot summer days eating curried egg sandwiches and swimming amongst the reeds that I once thought concealed crocodiles. It reminds me of my family’s happiness at the opportunity to spend an amazing summer day together. Happy Valley is indeed a very happy place.

What Do You Do When You Lose Interest In Your Course?

Like most uni students right now, I feel like I’ve lost my passion for what I’m studying. I used to love writing and story planning and that kind of thing but lately I’ve been so unmotivated and I feel like I’ve lost all interest in what I’m studying.

It seems to be this time of year that it happens to almost everyone so at least I’m not alone in it. Finishing the semester feels about as likely as me climbing mount everest but I’ve conjured some ways to refresh myself and renew my love of writing.

Here are some ways to help get you through the rest of the semester. 

1. Remind yourself why you’re there. You chose to study your course for a reason. Go back to how you felt at the beginning of your course and think about why you chose this subject.

2. Remember that you’re not alone.
Like I said before, almost everyone has hit a brick wall at the moment. With a flood of assignments pending and the pressure of exams building, we have every right to be a bit stressed.

3. The glass is half full.
Don’t think ‘Oh crap, there’s still x amount of weeks left of the semester.’ Think of it as ‘Oh wow! Only x amount of weeks until I get a well deserved break.’

4. De-stress at home.
The best thing you can do to refresh yourself is to RELAX. And although this might seem impossible now, after spending some time with friends or watching your favourite movie with your boyfriend, it won’t seem so difficult.

5. SLEEP.
I cannot stress this enough. One thing that I’ve noticed is that I haven’t been sleeping very well which has resulted in napping all day on Sundays. Oops. Make sure you get to bed at a certain time and allow enough time for you to get those all important 8 hours of sleep.

6. Write.
This one is mostly for me but can be applied to other courses. Put some time aside every week to do just that. Start off with 1-2 hours then try increasing it until you’re feeling happy about doing it.

I hope this helps any of you who are feeling a bit unmotivated to finish the semester. Just remember that holidays are soon and they will be glorious. Keep that in your mind and before you know it, you’ll be realxing on a beach in Hawaii without a care in the world.

Happy studying! 🙂 x

What I Fear About The Future.

I’m not ashamed to say that I’m scared of the future. In any given day, at any given time, something terrible can happen. No one knows what the future holds for them. No one can be sure that their dreams and life ambitions will come true. That’s what scares me the most.

I’m scared that I’ll lose my friends. Already the numbers have decreased since finishing high school. Now, I feel like I have about 3 people in my life that I can really call a good friend. It’s not that the others are bad friends, they’re just not around anymore.

I’m scared that my relationship with my boyfriend will end and it’ll hurt like previous break ups have hurt. I love him with everything I am but I can’t tell what’s going to happen in the future. I can hope and pray with all that I have but it still might not be enough to hold us together through whatever the future holds.

I’m scared that my writing will get me nowhere. What if I don’t get a career that I love out of it? What if I can’t find a job as a writer or what if I end up hating it? Should I have chosen a different path to travel on?

I’m scared that I’ll have no money. I know that this is a materialistic thing that doesn’t create happiness but I really hate not having money. It’s so essential to life that if you don’t have it, you can end up somewhere you don’t deserve to be.

I’m scared that my relationships with my family will deteriorate over time and I’ll end up not seeing any of them anymore. It’s not like I have a super close relationship with my brothers but I don’t want to be like my dad who never sees his sister anymore.

More than anything, I’m scared that I’ll fail. What if I fail at being a good friend, girlfriend, sister, daughter? What if I fail as a writer? What if I fail as a person?

The fear of failure looms over me everyday. Sometimes it’s a crippling fear that takes over my body with anxiety. I get stressed so easily about little things going on in my life because what if I don’t succeed at them or I let someone down?

I hope one day I won’t be afraid to fail and make mistakes but at the moment it’s controlling my ability to have faith in myself and my capabilities.

I don’t know what the future holds. I can’t control what happens. I guess I just need to pull together what little faith I have left in myself and believe that everything will fall into place eventually.

 

Thanks for reading x

5 Ways To Entertain Yourself When You’re Sick.

Sometimes being sick is inevitable, especially if your immune system likes to take a nice holiday break more often than it should, like mine does. At the moment I’m laying in bed with a raging fever thanks to tonsillitis and 4 ulcers in my mouth. So here’s how I have been keeping myself occupied while being sick.

1. Netflix.
Netflix has been my best friend this afternoon. I’ve been watching The Vampire Diaries and Tyler Oakley’s documentary ‘Snervous’ which I’ve been really enjoying. At least I have time to binge watch tv shows now.

2. Movie Marathon.
Tomorrow I’m planning a Hunger Games marathon in anticipation for Mockingjay Part 2 coming out on DVD soon. I can’t wait!

3. Take a Bath.
If you have a temperature or are like me and keep going from hot to cold, then a bath can be a great way to try and balance your temperature. If you’re hot, then have a cool bath and vice versa.

4. Catch Up With Friends.
Not in person, obviously, but send a message to some friends that you haven’t had much of a chance to catch up with. Sometimes it’s nice to feel sociable when you’re curled up in bed eating chocolate ice cream.

5. Sleeping.
Naps are the best when you’re sick. Take a half hour one or a four hour one. Let your body recuperate and allow your immune system to fight off whatever you have. Sleep is the best way to get better so don’t fight it.

There’s my tips for keeping yourself entertained while sick! Thanks for reading 🙂 x

The Best Ways To Cheer Yourself Up.

We all have bad days. It might be something specific that’s put you in a mood or it could be absolutely nothing. Today has been one of those days for me. So here’s how to get yourself out of a rut.

1. Take a bubble bath.
Simple but effective. Chuck some music on, fill up your bath and make sure it’s hot. Once you’re in, shut your eyes and shut out the world. You’ll feel so much better afterwards.

2. Do something creative.
If you’re anything like me, art and craft is almost second nature. Get out some paint and a canvas or make yourself a dream catcher, anything to take your mind off everything. If you’re not the artistic type, try doing something else with your hands.

3. Write a journal entry.
I find that this really helps especially when you don’t actually know what’s wrong. Write down everything you’re thinking and before long you’ll have an idea of what’s up.

4. Sit outside in the sun.
Vitamin D is great for you and being out in nature can have a really positive effect on you. Maybe even take your writing outside or if you prefer drawing, try that too.

5. Cook something.
Baking is so good for relaxation. Pick a recipe and go for it. My personal favourite is chocolate chip muffins and red velvet cupcakes.

I hope this helps any of you that find yourself in a bit of a mood. Let me know what you like to do to chill out! Thanks for reading 🙂 x

Being Your Authentic Self.

Tonight I’m feeling very philosophical. I’ve been thinking a lot about what it means to be ourselves on a completely true level and how hard that can be sometimes.

We live in a world of high morals and high expectations of ourselves that we can rarely ever live up to. The crazy part is that majority of the time, we do it to ourselves. We give ourselves a set level of quality that we must reach in order to realise and accept our self worth.

But in reality, we’re already worthy. We stop ourselves doing what makes us happy because maybe it goes against a belief of yours or someone close to you. Maybe it’ll hurt someone or make you seem like someone you’re not.

The fear of that happening creates a block like a brick wall and makes us feel guilty for wanting what we want. And it’s so incredibly stupid because we need to be putting our own needs in front of others if we’re to live a happy and fulfilled life.

We need to stop worrying about the way in which the world might perceive us and focus more on how we perceive ourselves. Make yourself feel good and that will resonate throughout yourself and the people around you.

So today I’m going to challenge myself to be happy. I’m going to face my fears and be who I am and not worry about what people think because screw them, it’s my time to shine.

If my decisions make someone else unhappy then I’m sorry but that’s just how it is. If the people around you really love you then they’ll support you. That’s all that really matters.

Being authentic is one of the most important things to do, especially if you’re still trying to work out exactly who you are as a person. So don’t be afraid to test it and experiment. Be fearless.

How To Survive Your First Day of Uni

It’s all happening guys! Uni is just around the corner for all of the Higher Ed students which just so happens to include a lot of my friends. Lucky for me, I started 2 weeks ago so I don’t have to stress about tomorrow. But, for those of you who haven’t started yet and have a lot of anxiety about it, here’s how to survive it.

1. Say hi to people.
Don’t be that awkward person in the corner! Go and talk to someone or make an effort to get to know the people in your course. There’s no point being alone the whole time when you could be making friends.

2. Be yourself.
Don’t start putting on a show for your peers. There’s a reason they’re in that course so try connecting with them over that instead of trying to impress them by being someone else.

3. Use the map.
If they give you a campus map, use that thing. Don’t try to be proud and think that you don’t need it because let me tell you, you will need it. Speaking from experience, keep it with you for a while, just in case.

4. Bring a pen and a book.
You never know what you might need to write down. For me, in my writing course, it’s essential to have something to write on in case inspiration strikes but it can be just as handy for those studying something else as well.

5. Have fun!
Uni is honestly so much fun. Sure, the classes or lectures might be boring but you’re there for a reason so just enjoy it. You never know where your course will take you so make the most of it.

Thanks for reading today guys! If you’re starting uni tomorrow then I wish you the very best of luck!

How To Know When You’ve Fallen For Someone.

Isn’t love wonderful? It’s such an enjoyable experience and allows you to feel absolutely on top of the world with another person. But sometimes it can be hard to distinguish between liking someone in a crush kind of way and falling for them. Hard.

Recently my best friend has been hit with a mad wave of the feels for a great guy and I have to admit, they’re pretty darn cute together. But it got me thinking, how can you tell if it’s real or if it’s a temporary thing? These are the main pointers that I’ve noticed which generally lean towards falling in love.

When you start to fall for someone, you cannot for the life of you get them out of your head. Like, ever. Every little thing reminds you of them and you find yourself constantly thinking ‘Oh, that person would like that!’ or ‘Wow, that person would find that hilarious’. It’s as if the world is trying to push you towards them constantly through out your day.

You’ll also notice that sick feeling in your stomach. Yeah, you know the one. Every time you know you’re going to see them, the butterflies are released and they go crazy in your stomach. My best friend said while she was driving to a party that he was going to be at, she felt so sick she was almost sure she was going to be physically sick. Cute, right?

Presents and gifts are always crossing your mind. Remember that time he said he wanted to get a plant in his room? And you instantly thought, ‘hey, I could get him a plant’ even though his birthday is months away and there is not even a single celebratory occasion coming up. I mean, it wouldn’t be that weird to rock up at his house with a pot plant and a huge smile, would it?

You’ll also start to change your plans and make things more difficult for yourself, just to spend more time with them. Oh, they need a lift to a party? Well hey, I’m close by…sort of. It may be more inconvenient for you but you get a 10 minute car ride with them out of it so in the end it’s so worth it.

All of a sudden, when you’re around them, everything is funny and you’re always happy. Weird right? For some reason their presence just has an incredible effect on your mood and attitude towards everything. Even the most boring of tasks become more enjoyable if he’s there.

You’ll make much more of an effort to be involved in the things that he’s interested in, such as a TV show or game. He likes The Walking Dead? Oh my god, what a coincidence! So do you! It can be quite entertaining watching someone pretend to know what they’re talking about when in reality, they have absolutely no clue. Seriously though, who is Carl?

Finally, what I’ve noticed between my bestie and her new boyf is you’ll be happy. Really and truly happy. If you can imagine spending the rest of your life with this person then that’s usually a good sign. So for all of you out there who are close to being in a relationship or those who aren’t, just remember that if they make you happy, then go for it. Don’t let anything hold you back from love.